I would love to claim that I don’t care what other people think.
I care buckets less than I used to, but still, I care.
It would also be nice to not wonder what the current season’s must have lip gloss shade is. Or whether or not I can afford whatever the current ‘It’ bag is.
I have never been able to completely curb my compulsion to buy nearly all of the women’s magazines. Fashion, shopping, gossip, advice..they are ALL good. Honestly, I couldn’t afford to buy much of what is advertised and quite frankly, as I never found the fat girl version of Lucky Magazine, they didn’t cater to my size. Even though it’s more likely I could find my size now, I STILL can’t afford what they have to offer.
I don’t subscribe anymore. And really, I mostly DON’T buy them. Except for when I do. I bought one recently and I don’t remember which one it was, I just know it pissed me the fuck off. I don’t know WHY I got so pissed. It’s not like the headline wasn’t like every other fucking headline you read in those magazines.
267 ways to drive him WILD in bed! Let me help you out with this one. All you have to do is say yes. Trust me…all they want is a yes.
Could YOU have the silent disease that kills a quarter of ALL women EVERY year? Why yes I could. I’m a fucking hypochondriac, thanks for another sleepless night. Asshole.
Get the PERFECT little black dress for LESS than $500. Really? How about I make my fucking car payment instead?
But it wasn’t any of those headlines that pissed me off. It was this one: How to wear your eyeshadow in your 20s, 30s, 40s and beyond!
How to wear my eyeshadow? Fuck you. I know how to wear my eyeshadow. Once you reach 40, less is more. Stick to just one shade and NEVER use black eyeliner. Again, I say fuck you. You can have my black eyeliner when you pry it from my cold dead fingers.
Why do I care about this? What on EARTH would compel me to change the way I wear my eyeshadow just because some twit who knows NOTHING about my eyes says I should stick to one shade?
Every morning is like arts and crafts in Kindergarten.
Only instead of glitter and glue and macaroni, I have tubes and sticks and tubs and pallets of every shade of eyeshadow you can imagine. Every morning is arts and crafts time for me and I never get tired of the ritual. Stick to ONE neutral shade? Oh sure, that is like telling 5 year old me that she can only glue one ONE piece of macaroni and she gets no glitter at all. Where’s the fun in that?
Who says there should be rules?
Who cares about this? If it makes you happy when you are 80 years old to wear mint green eyeshadow and plum mascara, I say layer it on with a putty knife. Have at it! That’s what I’m going to do. When I’m 80, I am dying my hair jet black and wearing purple lipstick every fucking day. And do you know what? I am going to look GOOD.
Why do we, and by we I mean us girls, feel so compelled to judge and sneer at each other?
We’ll decide if someone is dressed ‘age appropriately’ and comment on the height of the heels, the length of the skirt, and the highlights in the hair.
I am in no way excluding myself.
I am guilty as well. My criticism usually revolves around theme clothes worn during holiday seasons. Why do I care? If you want to wear a fuzzy sweater with a snowman on it and Christmas bulb earrings..well, that’s great.
I am so digging the new me.
I’m excited to buy new clothes. It feels good to consider something because it looks good on me, rather than buying clothes that cover as much as possible. I don’t give a shit what anyone else thinks about what I decide to wear. I want to dress for me. It’s been a long time since I could buy clothes that didn’t have an X in the size. If I want to wear something slutty at my age, I’ll wear something slutty at my age.
I will continue to wear a darker shade in the crease of my eyelid. I’ll have days when I go for the dewy look or the shimmery look or the matte finish. Sephora® will continue to take way too much of my money, because fat or thin, the makeup has always been there for me. I’m not changing and I don’t give a SHIT if it’s ‘time’ to or not.
We have to start accepting ourselves.
We don’t have to explain our choices and we certainly don’t have to apologize for them.
Where ever you may be in YOUR weight loss journey, find a reason to be happy with yourself , right now. Not 100 pounds from now or 10 pounds from now. Right now. Don’t let anyone tell you what your reason should be and don’t let them suggest that you are wrong.
Unless you really do wear theme clothes. Please stop.
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I don’t really follow those magazines, because I’ve never really cared what the trends are–I like what I like. And I have enough makeup to cover EVERY trend, so I don’t have to run out and buy something I might not like on the chance that it might be considered cool by someone I don’t even know.
I used to work in the cosmetic industry (which is how I got all the makeup I have), and my theory was/is that makeup isn’t really about looking good–it’s about feeling good about how you look. It doesn’t matter what other people think. It doesn’t matter what the trends or rules say. The ONLY thing that matters about how you look, whether it’s your clothes, your makeup, your hair, or your weight, is how YOU feel.
In other words, do what makes you happy. Always.
That is EXACTLY what I was trying to say! You just said it much more politely than I did.
I would LOVE to work in the cosmetics industry. Wow. That had to be a great job. But nooooo…I had to go and be a stupid computer programmer instead.
Such a great post! You took the words out of my mouth! This journey to health also happens in your HEAD. If your head is healthy and happy, screw the haters! =P
Although, I traded my black eyeliner in for COLOR. I decided when I had passed my 100lbs lost mark that I would start dressing, and wearing FUN, COLORFUL things (for the first time since I was a teenager!). Now my eyeliner is purple or a dark, sparkly green, etc. I’d stopped wearing make up entirely when I was so overweight, so this is a big deal for me. Now I wear makeup nearly much every day AND it has pretty colors that make me smile. (SMILE!!)
Know what else? I am planning on a slutty mini skirt for next weekend’s anniversary date with my hubs.
So there! =)
Janece
@gourmetmama
All I have to say to that is YOU GO GIRL!!!!!
Wooooooooo! And LOL. Btw, I do still wear eyeliner. It’s da sex appeal, ya know?
Yeah, I REALLY love the way it accentuates my watery, aging eyes!
i used to wear eyeliner. in high school. hey! gimme some slack. it was the 80′s……
i like your candor.
marketing toward women is a crime.
I still wear it..every day.. not quite as heavy as I did in the 80s..
Marketing toward women IS a crime. And they want us to feel insecure about ourselves..because we’ll keep shelling out our money to look the way THEY dictate.
Fuck that. Let’s start a revolution.
Women need to focus on having their men please THEM in bed not the other way around. And yeah, eyeliner will always be on my face. It looks hot the morning after.
That is EXACTLY why my 3rd husband is still my 3rd husband.
Okay, there might be a few other reasons as well.
And NOTHING is sexier than that smudged eyeliner, runny mascara dirty whore look first thing in the morning.
I love eye makeup! I can do without the other stuff, but eye shadow/liner/mascara is FUN and can do so much to create a look.
Screw what the magazines say. So far I’ve managed to avoid finding myself in the “DON’T” section of any of them, so fuck it. Besides, anything someone might judge me on, I can likely find something worthy of judging them right back.
absolutely! And who cares about the don’ts? I mean really..who died and made them..well..I don’t know. Think of something clever and fill in the blank, okay?
Though I don’t wear much makeup anymore I do miss this bright yellows,greens and other colors I wore when I was 20. I can still rock them I think, I just don’t. My problem with getting older is clothes. I have no interest in wearing “mom” clothes. I still find myself in the juniors section looking for cute shirts and hating all young girls with small breasts. So far I have been able to stay away from mom jeans and kitty shirts.
Of course now that I am pregnant, I guess all my clothes are “mom” clothes. And shopping is even more depressing!!
it will be over with before you know it.
I don’t like mom clothes either and I’m a grandmother. Fuck it..It’s been a LONG time since I could shop in the juniors section…I am digging it.
Oh god… I think I am going to wear eyeliner again just so I can look like a dirty whore in the morning. I miss those days!!
It’s great, right? Shoot..i look like a dirty whore nearly EVERY morning.
I’ve never been into the beauty and trend magazines. Too many unattainable things in them and a lot of them I just don’t like. My fashion likes are from the 1890′s, 1940′s, 1950′s and some form the 1980′s. Make-up has been my playground though in recent years I’ve actually started to enjoy a more natural look. Still, I have pretty much every color you can think of as far as eyes and lips go. I recently started wearing blush. Shoes? Mostly flats, but I do own and sometimes wear everything from simple kitten heels to thigh-high patent leather boots. I’m going to wear what I want (often vintage or handmade myself) when I want and where I want. And I love it!
You are AWESOME. I would love to see some of your handmade stuff. I can’t make anything. Except maybe jello..and that is iffy.